Your Job; Your Lifetime Love Affair

19 Nov 2019
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Gaone Mothobi

If you are over the age of 25 then I am guessing you have most probably started thinking about the type of person you would like to one day have a family with. When we pick lifetime partners, we create a mental list we use as a guide to tick off traits of the potential love partner we meet. As you may well know by now, picking a 'forever' partner is not easy, so we put a lot of thought into it to make sure we pick someone we will be content with being with come hell or high water. The same precision we put into picking partners should be put into picking a job since it is basically your only guaranteed lifetime love affair. Let me tell you why.

The labor market has become increasingly competitive, with a human resource supply that surpasses available jobs. Because of this, most of us will take whatever job opportunity is presented to us regardless of whether we like the job or not. Of course this also makes sense because we have bills to pay and we literally can not afford to not work. However, doing a job you are barely passionate about is just walking on a red carpet towards frustration. Imagine being with a partner you have no shared interests or values with, at some point both of you will detest being around each other. The same logic applies to working a job you are emotionally detached from, every minor problem you encounter on the job will always feel ten times worse than it is. One sign of this is having your mood spoiled by a mere email or getting angry over being given a new task by your superior. I do not need to tell you how counter-productive and unhealthy that is.

Almost all of us have long-term life goals that we are hoping to achieve in the next decades. Your career, regardless of what it may be, plays a huge role in achieving these goals. To bring it back home, say for example one day you want to have children with certain characteristics. You will therefore pick a partner that possesses these traits so they may be passed on to your offspring. In this case, your long-term goals are your offspring and your job is the partner you want to have these kids with. How is your job contributing to your future plans? Try not to just think of the monetary aspect. Your job also contributes to the type of person you will eventually turn into, the type of circles you hang around, the type of lifestyle you live and so on. Have you made sure your job is aligned with your core values and principles? As much as we have made money our modern-day oxygen, you will be surprised to know that it is probably not the top reason why you are still at your job.

By now you see where I am going with this. You should pay special attention to how you are spending your 8am-5pm every day of your life. Your job is plays a huge part in molding who you are mentally, socially, financially and so forth. It therefore seems wise for you to pick your job and not let it pick you. Even if you are already a couple of years into your career, there is no better time than now to reflect on how it has impacted your life.